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The Problem with Father’s Day and why it Sucks
Well, well, well. We are just months away from the ‘holiday’ that is more celebrated than Jesus’ birthday. The one holiday that surpasses the slaughter of turkeys and this country’s day of ‘independence’ combined. Which holiday might that be you ask? Father’s Day. How do People Remember Father’s Day? Is it the plethora of Father’s Day commercials offering discounts on tools, clothing, buffets, and such? Does your mother remind you about Father’s Day? How about your friends? Or maybe even pops himself? No one? Okay. Father’s Day USUALLY runs on a Sunday. There are no football games to look forward to watching. The NBA finals are usually over, so how…
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A Mini-Rant on why You may not be a Real ‘Single Mother’, & More
I have three small topics I want to quickly address – (1) The single mother monicker. More specifically, women who refer to themselves ‘single mothers’. (2) The disrespectful humiliation of high school wrestler Andrew Johnson. (3) The criticisms offered by Shannon Sharpe and Skip Bayless on Charles Barkley. But first, Happy 2019 to all the readers! I wish everyone a blessed, bountiful, productive year. Hopefully, whatever baggage, toxicisms (yes it’s a word to me, so what) and drama you endured, you left it in the rearview mirror. Remember, life moves forward and everything you go through is a learning experience. Having said that let’s get on with it with our first…
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Real Stories of Fatherood, Baby Mama Drama and Family Court Phuckery | Fathers’ Writes
As you contemplate what sentimental messages to write in the next father’s day card you purchase, I ask of you to consider doing the following: Celebrate Dads Beyond Fathers Day. In todays social climate – and generally speaking of course – how often do we truly concern ourselves with fathers beyond the fleeting, half-hearted recognition of fatherhood on Father’s day? On topics of children and family, how often do we actively consider the perspectives, emotional investment and support of dads in those conversations? As a collective, do we even believe that men [in general] prioritize healthy, meaningful relationships with their children and are capable of experiencing strong emotional bonds with them? The temptation…
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“I’m Single but too shy to Talk to Guys. Help!” | Ask The Men
Dear Ask The Men, “I am a 45 year old, soon to be divorced woman, and mother of three. My daughters are currently attending college and my son is eleven years old. I was in a marital relationship for 21 years. Prior to that I had very little experience with men. In fact, my soon to be ex was my first boyfriend. I would describe myself as a late bloomer and I am proud to say I’m sexier today than I was 20 years ago. Any hoo, I’m no where near ready to date, but I must admit I do think about my future and if it would ever include having…
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Need Advice on Life, Love & Dating? Just ‘Ask The Men’
Why ‘Ask The Men’ might be the next best option for men and women seeking life or relationship advice? Why wouldn’t it be? Companionship and happiness are important to most and the frustrations of daily life and modern dating has made achieving those goals extremely challenging. We all need a little direction from time to time in the form of life hacks, dating and relationship counseling and even co-parenting advice (for individuals with children) in order to maneuver through the shenanigans while also securing a firm hold our happiness and sanity. This is why our *Ask The Men advice column was created – to serve up helpful tips and highly informative answers in direct…
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“When Guys Ignore Your Texts, What Does it Mean?” | Ask The Men
Dear OpinionatedMale.com, “My girlfriend and I have been in agreement when we say that guys have no respect when it comes to texting. The disrespect is evident with how long it takes a man to respond to a text. Now we’re not talking about a one time situation. We are talking about the man who responds hours later to a text on a consistent basis. I’m sorry but if you think it’s okay to respond 12 hours later, it’s not. Within those 12 hours, you’ve seen the text and simply chose not to respond. Think about if the roles were reversed. If I was your girl &/or someone you cared about…
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8 Important Qualities Your Child’s Teacher Must Have
“Hey I don’t care if you do the work, or whether you pass or not, I get paid regardless” Sound familiar? Readers, we’ve all been there with teachers. We’ve had good ones, bad ones, and great ones. We’ve had ones that played the role of psychiatrist, therapist, an uncle/aunt figure, and even some like a second mother or father. We’ve even had ones that would repeat the aforementioned phrase or one that’s eerily close. Well going off my experiences in my school career, here’s to me what makes a model educator. Determination and dedication To make a small connection here, if you’re an athlete with God-given ability, you don’t have…
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Why Therapists are the new Black and the 5 Reasons You Need One
Ladies and gentlemen, please welcome guest blogger Jill Badu. You ever see someone with a visible physical ailment and they are always talking or complaining about it? And inevitably you think to yourself: ‘They should really go see someone about that’. Well as a mental health professional myself, I often think that about other people. But every now and then I turn that clinical eye inward and think to myself, ‘girl you need to go see someone, you are all messed up in the head’. At the top of this year I decided this would be a year where I work on becoming my best self. Going to therapy was…
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"My Girlfriend Dumped me! How do I win her Back?" | Ask The Men
On this weeks featured episode of Ask The Men, Jamal asks: “Hi there. So to start off my story I had a relationship with this girl for a month but [prior to that] we were talking for about 3 months. We are both coworkers and it’s been a rocky relationship from the get go because of her anger and my [in]ability to grow up and be a man. She broke up with me a few weeks ago because we didn’t click, the conversation never flowed, and only liked me because I was a nice guy. I tried to get her to reconsider, but to no success and it almost cost…
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5 Things You Need to Unlearn About Men
Many moons ago, I wrote a piece titled the 7 Myths About Women That Men Really Hate and I’ve always meant to do one on men but never got around to it. Well I’ve gotten around to it and put together a short list of long-standing stereotypes about men that have had their run. Let’s put these myths to bed. Speaking of beds… [Black] men are well endowed I don’t spend a lot of time in men’s locker rooms nor have I been accused of being a wiener-screener or pecker-checker. Having said that, I think black men get a bad rap for having a full…er,…umm…package. Now hold on, I know what you’re…
