What type of woman are you (dating)? Women and Sports have become a way of life in today’s society. So in this post I’m going to put them both in a sort of ‘sports perspective’ since we all participate in it in some way shape or form.
As you get more into the sport you enjoy watching, you will see that teams have franchise players, superstars, stars, mid-level players, and bench players. I did a previous article “All Gold Everything: What Type Of Man Are You (Dating)?” I’m going to do the same with the ladies, but I’ll spin it a little. So gentlemen, what TYPE of woman do you deal with? Here I break down the 5 types we usually run into on a day-to-day basis.
The Bench Player
This is your very basic type. Not necessarily but can even be sort of ‘hood ratchet’. She’s usually not the best looking and one who has next to nothing going for herself but can be good company for you as maybe a leisure buddy (smoking, drinking) or someone you just smash and keep under wraps.
She probably has her own spot (if she does, don’t be surprised if she’s a housing-system lifer). More than likely a ‘baby’s mama’ and doesn’t mind saying so with some sort of pride, or staying that way. She is more often than not a pain in the ass, but because of good bedroom skills (or other intangibles) you tolerate her. These types would not be considered ‘wife’ material unless you literally have very low to no standards or self-esteem.
The Bench Player would equate to a player that is not talented enough to be considered a star,but is just good enough to ride the bench, and if they contribute something it’s considered a bonus yet not a necessity. In other words you can get your own weed, liquor or have a spot for yourself, but if she happens to have it when you come to do whatever it is ya’ll do,..okay cool.
The Mid-Level Player
The one who may have her own spot or maybe not. May have a vehicle, maybe not. She has a job, but just not a career. Decent looking, and is someone you can just kick it with. You can funnel her into the ‘friend with a benefit’ zone, nothing more nothing less. They are similarly on par with the ‘Bench Player’ but with a little more to offer.
Her cooking skills are probably lacking so you’ll be feasting on the basics, i.e., ordering take-out or you’ll be doing ALL the cooking. Not sure if building with one of these types is the best, again just a kick it buddy. But if you choose to you’ll have a lot of work to do if you‘re the progressive type of dude or don’t mind your situation since there’ll probably be no growth.
To equate to player terms, someone who isn’t on par with the superstars/stars but can hold her own occasionally.
The Star Player
The type has loads of potential to be more, but is content with what she is/has. This may not be a bad thing depending on the guy. She is good-looking, more than likely has finished college, has a good job, cool to be around, has her own spot, good in bed, can drive and (may even have her own vehicle) and probably good in the kitchen.
The kicker is, the desire for growth. Does she want to stay at her job, which is good but has a ceiling that she isn’t sure she wants to break? Is she destined to run the treadmill of life knowing she can actually run on her own? She may want to settle down, but as well she may not.
You may want to get serious but chances are these are the types who may have been screwed over by a previous relationship and now carry emotional baggage. Again, the potential is certainly there but something is keeping her from realizing it.
In player terms, one who is a star in their league. Puts up good numbers but is fine with just that. Or is one who is determined to be more, but because of other factors can’t get to the superstar or franchise level.
This is the one most guys settle for. She is easy on the eyes (not just to her man but everyone); has a career; money isn’t much of an object to her. She is cool as hell being around, can drive and even has her own vehicle. Plus she’ll leave your toes curling in the bedroom and just seems to have it all. The too good to be true female. She is very popular, outgoing, and you’ll definitely have fun. Lives your typical cosmopolitan lifestyle.
However, is she good at saving money? (She’ll rather spend money eating (and going) out as opposed to cooking her meals) Can she balance a check book? She makes a lot of money but likely SPENDS a lot of money. Is she someone who you can build a foundation with? Is she content with paying someone else’s mortgage or paying her own?
This is the player who is supremely talented that people will pay to see , but can you win a title with this player? Is this a player who you can depend on for the long haul? For some reason or another there’s possibility she’ll get to a certain level and choke in the big game (of life as well). Potentially not someone you can build with for the long-term.
The Franchise Player
Ah, now these are the ones that are hard to find. This one can be the yin to your yang. However, she may not be a dime. Not the flashiest but conservative. She may nag you and get on your nerves at times, although that maybe because she just wants you to step it up and reach your apex. She will definitely have your back at all costs.
She’s educated, has a career, able to cook and clean. No matter what you’ll have a clean house, food on the table and in the fridge. She’s family oriented and wants to be a wife NOT someone’s baby’s mama. As a result, she more than likely doesn’t want children UNLESS she is married. And you know if you had children she’ll hold the fort down for you if you’re away.
If she doesn’t already have a house she definitely wants one and will stop at nothing to get one. She is a go getter and saves money even if it means going as far as bringing coupons anywhere. She also doesn’t mind getting her hands dirty or feet wet. She’ll help rake leaves or shovel snow –or at least have some warm dry socks and a hot beverage waiting for you when you’re done doing it. *I personally know of women who have done this, so this is not a stretch.
The Franchise Player is the type of woman who if YOU TREAT RIGHT she’ll return her love ten-fold. She’s your classic 80/20 female, and it’ll behoove you not to risk this ‘80’ to get that ‘20’.
This player is multi-faceted, very talented and someone you build a team around and watch the championships come. She will always give 100% night in and night out. She will be an asset to your organization for years to come.
So ladies and gents, there it is. Fellas, what type of women do you have or types you tend to run into? If you have a Bench or Star and you’re fine with it, thats awesome. There’s someone for everyone. Ladies, in your opinion, which type would best or come close to describing you? Do tell. The floor is yours.
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Title update on 01/15/19. Post Originally entitled, “If You Like It Then You Should Put A Ring On It – Not So Fast, Is She Worth It?”