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Traditional vs Modern Dating – Which Approach is Better? | Ask The Men
Ask The Men! Yep, its that time again when we go through our bag of goodies and pick a letter from a reader. This weeks question comes to us from J.C.. Let’s get to it. Thoughts of 21st Century Paths of Relationships Dear Opinionated Male: “I’ve been a long time commenter and lurker, but this is my first foray asking anything. I know you and other writers have written about modern vs traditional means of interactions between genders, but ever so often the posts seem to contradict each other from what was written weeks or months apart. Anyways, my question is this: For Men and Women of all kinds of…
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The 8 Biggest Signs You Hate Your Job
Congratulations your hired! Your first day on the new gig is always full of excitement and anticipation. You arrive early to make that great impression and you’ve met your boss, colleagues and everyone seems relatively nice and professional. After making rounds and introductions, you’re led to your new work station. Sure it’s not much, but you’ve seen worse, so you’re cool. But that doesn’t matter, because you’re energetic and motivated to prove your worth and demonstrate to everyone what you’re made of. While getting settled into your new digs and acquainted with your new colleagues, you get the scoop from the ‘office gossiper’ on who in the office to avoid and watch…
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Your Questions, Our Answers – Ask The Men
What’s up bro hams and bro hamlets. Ahhhhh. OM Family stand up! Some of ya’ll have already heard (and by heard I mean read), and some of ya’ll haven’t. Either way we’re making the official announcement now. So yeah, The Opinionated Male has a new installment called, **You’ve Got Male! (Renamed “Ask The Men”) Get it? You’ve Got Male? Mail? -_- Yeah, yeah, whatever. Anyway,**Ask The Men! is our advice segment. Apparently quite a few of you out there crave personalized words of wisdom, the Opinionated Male way – no filter. And who are we to deny you? Exactly! So simply send in your questions or dilemmas here or to OpinionatedMale@gmail.com with ‘Ask The…
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How Long Should you Wait for Him to Propose? | Ask The Men
Dear OpinionatedMale.com, “Hi. My name is Monica. I must say your blog is very interesting. I have a question. I’m 24 and in college, and from time to time I think about marriage. My grandmother always says to me, “A man should know within 6 months if he wants to marry you. If he doesn’t ask you by the first year, leave him because he is waiting for something better to come along“. I agree with her, but I feel it could be more of a challenge because the world is so different [now] compared to the past. I was thinking a year and a half..maybe two. From an adult males perspective,…
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The 5 Benefits of Becoming Friends Before Lovers
We can be guilty of being so eager to reach that end game of whatever relationship we’re seeking that sometimes in our sprint to the finish line we forget how important it is to stop and smell the roses along the way; especially if the scent and look of those roses are a dead giveaway of what awaits us there. – Mr. SoBo Dating is fun. Scratch that, dating is exciting. It’s also frustrating as hell and disappointing . But through it all, there is no denying the thrilling allure of being in the presence of someone you have yet to experience while eagerly searching for a romantic connection…
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Natural Black Women and why We Love Them
Ahhh, I remember it like it was yesterday. I had recently turned 21 and it was time to take full advantage of my adult freedoms; and by adult freedoms I mean live it up after hours on the social scene while indulging in adult beverages (responsibly and irresponsibly) of course. It was an autumn night, a Friday to be exact, and I was heading out with a few of my college compadres to a popular nightclub venue downtown. There was electricity in the crisp night air, but that anxious feeling more likely had something to do with it being my very first time attending an actual nightclub. Until this night,…
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A Closet Feak: “Should I Hide my Freaknasty from my new Boyfriend?”
I was contacted to guest blog on CupidsPlanner.com. One of their readers (a young lady) wanted a little ‘advice’. I was asked to give a male’s point of view in response to her letter, and I happily obliged. She wrote: “I am in a new relationship, should I hold back in bed for fear of being judged as a freak? I really enjoy sex and I have the feeling that I might be more experienced than my current boyfriend. I really like him, so I want our first time to be magical. I would not want to mess it up by doing too much or giving him the wrong impression. I like…
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Improve Your Co-Parenting Relationship with These Common Sense Tips
Several weeks ago Cortonio and I published, “Single Parents: Is it Better to Have Children outside of Marriage?” where for the first time, we collaborated giving our respective takes on the topic. There were some great comments left by several of our readers who decided to weigh in with their thoughts. One reader in particular ‘Aly’ left a comment that stuck out for me and is also the motivation behind today’s post. Here is an excerpt of what she had to say: “Instead of trying to convince people with a bunch of scary statistics that marriage is the best option for a happy, well-adjusted child, it’s time to shift the…
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You Make Us Great, So We Grateful -N- Sh*t
First and foremost this is not a post. Yes it kinda looks like one, but it isn’t. Fa real doe. Disappointed? Don’t be. On the bright side, that picture to your left…now that’s a post. But what you’re reading right now though, isn’t. Well sorta. Understand? Me neither. So forget all that. What I DO want you to understand is this: We here at Opinionated Male would like to take a moment to thank YOU our regular readers, new readers and casual visitors for the growing support we have been receiving over the last two months since our debut. The love we have received here as well as on twitter and…
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Hoodrats & Headwraps: Hot Ghetto Mess or Unapologetic Fashionista?
For those who enjoy pointing out the obvious, there will be sweeping generalizations, vacuuming assumptions, mopping presumptions and Swiffering aspersions made throughout this entire post. A dichotomy that is both essential and non-essential to the overall premise. Enjoy with three grains of salt. As the world turns, and as we meander through the days of our lives, we observe relationships in action every single day. Many of our relationship observations (and observations in general) are cognitive. However, others are observed more passively. In fact, I’m inclined to believe that the majority of our observations in life are done passively. In other words, we don’t notice sh*t, but we really do…