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21 Men Confess Their Sexual Deal Breakers & Turn Offs
Cortonio (yes I’m referring to myself in the 3rd person) figured he’d go a different direction this time with this post. But seriously, I recently read an article about women and their sexual deal breakers, so I figured why not do a post on men and feature their responses. Honestly, I was pretty curious as to the types of answers I would get, so I came up with a plan. Basically, I polled a number of men from varying age groups over the course of a week. Some I knew personally, others were random attendees from a social event I attended and a few others were literally just passers by. It…
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6 Big Secrets Guys Won’t Share With Their Girlfriends
Secret adjective 1. done, made, or conducted without the knowledge of others: secret negotiations. 2. kept from the knowledge of any but the initiated or privileged: a secret password. Men and women all have secrets right? There are just some things out there they just wouldn’t want to share with their beaus. It can be a pre-relationship indiscretion they perpetuated or it could be something potentially damaging to their present relationship especially if it’s newfound. And it could even be something downright embarrassing they are reluctant to share with you. Some men keep things stashed away in their ‘Mandora’s box’ and will either let it out to a precious few or take it to the grave.…
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Is there Room for Traditional Values in Today’s Culture?
“Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free”. “Boys shack up, men provide a home”. We’ve all heard the old clichés and idioms involving the norms of society when it comes to people and relationships. Have you ever stopped and wondered to yourself if the old-fashioned norms and ways are still in full effect? Are they just ‘old’ and shouldn’t be followed anymore? Does or should it even apply to me anyway? Well, lets examine some of the ways of yesteryear and see how relevant (or not) they are today. Let’s chop it up…. Living together before marriage vs Marriage first This has always been debated among people…
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Love Or Money – Which is More Important in Your Relationship?
Guy #1: “Yo I’m telling you relationships and marriage, especially marriages are investments”. Guy #2: “Dawg what are you talking about? You’re jaded man, marriage is and should be based on love…not money”. Guy #1: “No think about it, a marriage is like a business because…” This was a conversation I was involved in but didn’t have much to add as I was rather drawn into the viewpoints of it. I sat there taking it all in listening intently as these brothers used metaphors on marriages and the aspect of money. It went on for a while with lots of good banter back and forth. I had to think and…
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Bedroom Games That will Make You Better in Bed
Mattresses creaking. Headboards hitting the wall. Moaning. Heavy breathing. We all know what that is. Sex which was a hush hush taboo subject 50+ years ago has seemingly exploded into mainstream media: music, magazines, tv, internet, you name it it’s there. From serious relationships, one night stands, friends with benefits to whatever, its everywhere. Now while men and women know the in’s and out’s of having sex, do we really get to know and understand the subtle nuances of what makes a good to great physical relationship? How many brothers really pay attention to a woman’s erogenous zones? How many women know while it doesn’t take much, it does take work to turn…
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Do Her Social Media Friends Come with ‘Benefits’? | IYNTKJA Pt. 5
Welcome to another installment of “If You Need To Know Just Ask“. Well I was in-boxed with some more questions and I’ll be delighted to answer them. This time I’m joined by my writing brother from another mother, Mr. SoBo. So what are we waiting for? You got questions, we got answers. Let’s go! My boyfriend bought a mother’s day gift for his ‘baby mama’. I approached him about this and we got into an argument. Was I wrong? CORTONIO: Well, that’s a rather interesting situation to be in. I’ll say this, if their child was old enough to pick out a gift or sign the card and he simply PAID…
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The Subtle Ways a Man Shows he Adores You
“Her” – What is she? Who is she? My partner in crime Mr. SoBo wrote a masterful piece on “Her – The One Your Parents Never Told you About” and how she can be that man’s kryptonite. I’m sure plenty ladies sit and wonder to themselves: Was I ever Her? Will I ever be Her? Why haven’t I truly been someone’s Her? Some women know what it’s like and some don’t. Whether or not it’s deservedly so isn’t really for me to say. Now, not every man will do all these things mentioned below nor will it mean you are any less special to him if he doesn’t do these things. It truly depends…
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The One – What Your Parents Never Told you About Her | Poem
They say I am strong and unyielding with an emotional fortitude thats shielding, yet Her spirit weakens me. Armed with clarity and a firm grasp of reality, I navigate this unpredictable sea I call life, yet I constantly find myself lost in Her eyes. With every glance into the softly beckoning and disarmingly feminine dreamy windows of Her soul, she ensnares my spirit and catapults me into a dreamlike state of my own. Visions – of a future filled with memories, heartfelt “I Do’s” celebrated in ceremonies serenaded with songs of the innocence we long shed, but now welcome back into our lives as a testament of our love – consume me as I drift further into Her gaze.…
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What Men Desire: A Woman’s Guide to Being a Good Catch
I’ve come to realize that I have had way too many conversations about relationships with women. Between those real life conversations and the bevy of side-eye inducing social media commentary, one thing is for certain – every one of these lovely women considers herself a great catch. Successful. Intelligent. Attractive. Independent and exceptional in bed. According to them, it doesn’t get any better than that. Curiously enough however, apparently it does…according to those men who didn’t answer their relationship call. Is it possible all those men got it wrong? So what’s the problem? Clearly the sexes view life through different lenses. And that’s okay ladies. So although you may feel you have it ‘going on’, it…
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Yes She Cheated – How do you Handle Her Infidelity?
It’s been a few weeks now and things seem different. The affection has waned. You’re not seeing each other as much (even if you live together there’s not much quality time), and the sex has not only curtailed but it doesn’t feel the same. You ask and she says things like, “I’m okay just going through some things” or “I just haven’t been feeling myself lately”. After all, we all have our days right? We go through our personal ruts so nothing to see here …correct? You’ve tried talking about it but she continues to insist nothing is wrong. As days go by things continue as they were and you’re not feeling…
