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The Problem with Father’s Day and why it Sucks
Well, well, well. We are just months away from the ‘holiday’ that is more celebrated than Jesus’ birthday. The one holiday that surpasses the slaughter of turkeys and this country’s day of ‘independence’ combined. Which holiday might that be you ask? Father’s Day. How do People Remember Father’s Day? Is it the plethora of Father’s Day commercials offering discounts on tools, clothing, buffets, and such? Does your mother remind you about Father’s Day? How about your friends? Or maybe even pops himself? No one? Okay. Father’s Day USUALLY runs on a Sunday. There are no football games to look forward to watching. The NBA finals are usually over, so how…
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A Mini-Rant on why You may not be a Real ‘Single Mother’, & More
I have three small topics I want to quickly address – (1) The single mother monicker. More specifically, women who refer to themselves ‘single mothers’. (2) The disrespectful humiliation of high school wrestler Andrew Johnson. (3) The criticisms offered by Shannon Sharpe and Skip Bayless on Charles Barkley. But first, Happy 2019 to all the readers! I wish everyone a blessed, bountiful, productive year. Hopefully, whatever baggage, toxicisms (yes it’s a word to me, so what) and drama you endured, you left it in the rearview mirror. Remember, life moves forward and everything you go through is a learning experience. Having said that let’s get on with it with our first…
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Real Stories of Fatherood, Baby Mama Drama and Family Court Phuckery | Fathers’ Writes
As you contemplate what sentimental messages to write in the next father’s day card you purchase, I ask of you to consider doing the following: Celebrate Dads Beyond Fathers Day. In todays social climate – and generally speaking of course – how often do we truly concern ourselves with fathers beyond the fleeting, half-hearted recognition of fatherhood on Father’s day? On topics of children and family, how often do we actively consider the perspectives, emotional investment and support of dads in those conversations? As a collective, do we even believe that men [in general] prioritize healthy, meaningful relationships with their children and are capable of experiencing strong emotional bonds with them? The temptation…
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8 Important Qualities Your Child’s Teacher Must Have
“Hey I don’t care if you do the work, or whether you pass or not, I get paid regardless” Sound familiar? Readers, we’ve all been there with teachers. We’ve had good ones, bad ones, and great ones. We’ve had ones that played the role of psychiatrist, therapist, an uncle/aunt figure, and even some like a second mother or father. We’ve even had ones that would repeat the aforementioned phrase or one that’s eerily close. Well going off my experiences in my school career, here’s to me what makes a model educator. Determination and dedication To make a small connection here, if you’re an athlete with God-given ability, you don’t have…
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Why Therapists are the new Black and the 5 Reasons You Need One
Ladies and gentlemen, please welcome guest blogger Jill Badu. You ever see someone with a visible physical ailment and they are always talking or complaining about it? And inevitably you think to yourself: ‘They should really go see someone about that’. Well as a mental health professional myself, I often think that about other people. But every now and then I turn that clinical eye inward and think to myself, ‘girl you need to go see someone, you are all messed up in the head’. At the top of this year I decided this would be a year where I work on becoming my best self. Going to therapy was…
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5 Things You Need to Unlearn About Men
Many moons ago, I wrote a piece titled the 7 Myths About Women That Men Really Hate and I’ve always meant to do one on men but never got around to it. Well I’ve gotten around to it and put together a short list of long-standing stereotypes about men that have had their run. Let’s put these myths to bed. Speaking of beds… [Black] men are well endowed I don’t spend a lot of time in men’s locker rooms nor have I been accused of being a wiener-screener or pecker-checker. Having said that, I think black men get a bad rap for having a full…er,…umm…package. Now hold on, I know what you’re…
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The Black Folk’s Guide to Summertime Cookouts
Summer is fast approaching and the weather is ripe for some outdoor cooking, and I’m sure before the Fall, you would have hosted or went to about a half dozen cookouts (barbecues). I’m also sure you will have plenty of stories to share from which drunk uncle acted up, who flipped the table over in spades, who ‘put their foot’ in the BBQ chicken, down to who dressed scantily clad. However there’s rules and levels to attending BBQ’s. So allow me to share some tips if you please to help you avoid being a bigger jerk than the chicken. Proper Cookout Etiquette (The Do’s) BRING SOMETHING OR ASK…
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6 Ways Women can Avoid Needless Drama in Their Lives
After having written Dear Men, Here’s 6 Simple Ways to Avoid Foolishly Ruining Your Lives, I would be remiss if I didn’t do the same for the softer sex. Let’s get right to it. Have Children too Young ‘Young’ can be open to interpretation and be quite a broad adjective. Allow me to be more specific in terms of what ‘young’ is meant here. And I won’t define it as ‘not being ready’ because you could be 32 years old making a very desirable salary, be totally financially independent and still not ready to have a child. If this were to occur you under these circumstances as described above, at least you would…
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6 Ways Men can Avoid Needlessly Ruining Their Lives
I’m going to rewind to the age of 7. I was young, impressionable, had a ravenous appetite for reading, and I was in carefree mode (as all young kids are). I was watching a show called Zoobilee Zoo – go on Youtube to check it out (if you’re over 30 you should know the show). Anyhow, one of the characters made a mistake that cost him a friendship (for the duration of the show). The obligatory sing-a-long came at the end about making mistakes. The chorus was: “It’s a fact of life that you have to face, People maaaaakeeee mistakes” . There’s nothing wrong with making a mistake. Plain and simple we all tend…
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3 Things Men do That Women Really Hate (Pt. 1)
Hi readers. It’s your homegirl Ms. K.K. crashing the spot as the featured guest blogger for today. Men, this one is for you so you may want to pay special attention. In your many years of dating the gentler, fairer and I daresay, better sex, you may have come across many instances in which you were sorely befuddled by the consternation of your ‘Boo thang’. Could it be as simple as women are just too complex, or that we really are from two different planets/school of thought? Almost everything you might have thought is true. Women are varied and are as unique as fingerprints or snowflakes, and equally intricate and…
