Welcome to the third installment of “Ladies, If You Need To Know Just Ask”. I previously did a part 1 and part 2 , so check those out for your reading pleasure. Anyway, I was recently approached with some more questions presented to me from the fairer sex. I’m sure some, if not all of these questions may relate to many of you; or maybe a few of you readers were simply just as curious for answers yourself. Several of these questions I found rather thought provoking, and some others not so much. Either way, here goes this weeks list of questions women ask men.
1. Do you feel intimidated if we make more money than you?
The answer to this is that it depends on a few things: How much more is it; your respective professions; and his ego just to name a few. If it’s a substantial amount more, some men do feel intimidated. See, a lot of men have fragile egos and don’t want to feel subservient or inferior to a woman in any way shape or form. I always tell men that if you are in a relationship and she makes a greater amount, all you have to do is be smart with your money and make it appear more even though it isn’t. Do the simple things such as spend wisely, save, and as I mentioned in a previous article stay in your financial lane. At the end of it all, regardless of anything, you as a man should have confidence no matter what. Women love men with confidence, not arrogance… confidence.
So if you make less than she does, don’t sweat it as long as it’s enough to maintain your lifestyle. And ladies if you’re in a relationship with a man who makes less than yourself, do not wash your man’s face with the fact your check has commas and his has decimals. It’s a pretty low thing to do and not cool. And if you feel the need to do so, go and find someone who’s salary is comparable to yours, or get a pet.
2. What’s one thing you wish we did in bed that we don’t normally do?
Well, it depends on the guy and if it’s just you and him (some men may want threesome’s, orgy’s etc.,). You have men that are simple and only desire some good fellatio at times (yes there are those women who for some reason or another don’t believe in fellatio). Then you have the more complex men who want fellatio while deploring a few soldiers into your mouth for duty (I’m aware there are women who are grossed out by the mere thought of this), or other men who may even want some anal intercourse. Then you have those brothas, THOSE brothas who are just downright
nasty unconventional. Their wants could be anything from golden showers, rusty trombones, tossed salad’s, you name it they want it. This isn’t a article for sexual nicknames so if you want to know what these ‘deeds’ actually are, just google them.
3. Why is the mindset of being in a monogamous long term relationship the end of fun?
Think of it like this from a guy’s perspective: You meet a woman, you engage in introductory conversation–not too much where you tell all but enough as a meet and greet. You exchange phone numbers and it’s on. For the first few weeks or months you have ‘text-versations’ (I should patent that term), regular phone conversations that last all hours of the night (what my homies and I back in the day referred too as ‘making love on the phone’). You get butterflies when she calls, you check your voice mails or missed calls hoping one of them was from her. I bet the two of you even do cute stuff like call to say goodnight, or she’ll call to hear your voice.
You then start going out on dates regardless of where, but obviously it’s your intention to impress her. You go through 3 or 4 different outfits until you find the right one for that one outing and you experience that fun nervousness. And the real fun starts as you two become intimate (this obviously hinges on her). While you are going through this, you’re truly having fun with no real strings attached. But one day it hits her and she starts asking presumptuous questions foreshadowing to the dreaded ‘R’ word. Some men actually don’t mind this, but of course there are others who fret because they know their freedom will perhaps become abated.
In addition to that, the newness and novelty has worn off and things aren’t exactly the same. The sex tapers off, and now you have expectations whereas before everything was free flowing. Yes I did go off on a tangent, but hey, this happens with couples. We as men sometimes don’t like change and become flustered when we aren’t in control of these situations. It’s simply a matter of communication, being on the same page with one other and hopefully everything should work out fine.
So ladies, if you do come across that guy who’s not ready for a commitment after a long courtship, then maybe you have to cut your losses and don’t waste your time any further.
4. Why do men disappear? If they don’t want to date me anymore just say something, use your words.
We just don’t want to hurt your feelings. Be honest ladies, you are guilty of the same transgression. I’m sure, no I guarantee that you have dated a guy and for whatever reason he wasn’t your type and you simply stopped communicating with him on all levels. And if it was a hook up through a mutual friend, she had to be the one to break the news to the poor unsuspecting guy, not you.
Any who, maybe we don’t want to date all like that. Instead we just want to be physical and don’t say so because we don’t want to come off as horny, lusting, carnal, rabid, animals who just wants to f**k. It is what it is. Or in other cases we do the same as you gals…You know, we weren’t into you anymore and just figured it’s easier to avoid you and sooner or later (hopefully sooner) you’ll get the hint. I don’t condone this behavior but I have been guilty of it myself.
5. What does it feel like when you fall in love?
It’s a great feeling. One that also happens include some of the behaviors I discussed in #3. When you are in love with someone anything they do can be very very good or very very bad, even the simplest stuff. Being in love can make us go through all types of motions.
6. Have you ever slept with a prostitute?
Me… No and don’t plan on it. However there are some men out there who if given the chance to step out on their woman would rather pay for it. By embarking on this sort of behavior there are no feelings involved, no numbers, texts, no real paper trails to speak of. You are pretty much paying for them to leave. It can be an online type of thing or outright getting a prostitute off the streets or from that one apartment in the projects. I hope that answers that.
7. What’s with your obsession with video games?
As men, there is a big percentage of us that are kids at heart. Some of us like wrestling as fake as it is. It’s a guilty pleasure. And there are those among us who’ll damn near orgasm at the sight of some “Madden”, “2K”, or “Grand Theft Auto”. Hey it is what it is and it’s hard for us to let go. Those who have outgrown it over the years, put a good game in front of us and watch us get lost.
Okay readers there you have it for my third rendition. And ladies, please chime in with some questions that y’all are curious to find out about us men but for one reason or another just didn’t ask. And thanks for your continued support and readership of OM.
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