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Real Stories of Fatherood, Baby Mama Drama and Family Court Phuckery | Fathers’ Writes
As you contemplate what sentimental messages to write in the next father’s day card you purchase, I ask of you to consider doing the following: Celebrate Dads Beyond Fathers Day. In todays social climate – and generally speaking of course – how often do we truly concern ourselves with fathers beyond the fleeting, half-hearted recognition of fatherhood on Father’s day? On topics of children and family, how often do we actively consider the perspectives, emotional investment and support of dads in those conversations? As a collective, do we even believe that men [in general] prioritize healthy, meaningful relationships with their children and are capable of experiencing strong emotional bonds with them? The temptation…
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8 Important Qualities Your Child’s Teacher Must Have
“Hey I don’t care if you do the work, or whether you pass or not, I get paid regardless” Sound familiar? Readers, we’ve all been there with teachers. We’ve had good ones, bad ones, and great ones. We’ve had ones that played the role of psychiatrist, therapist, an uncle/aunt figure, and even some like a second mother or father. We’ve even had ones that would repeat the aforementioned phrase or one that’s eerily close. Well going off my experiences in my school career, here’s to me what makes a model educator. Determination and dedication To make a small connection here, if you’re an athlete with God-given ability, you don’t have…
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“When is the Right Time to Introduce Bae to Your Child?” | Ask The Men
Dear Opinionated Male, Before I start I just wanted to let you guys know I enjoy your articles, very thought out and germane. I hadn’t heard of you guys until a very close acquaintance told me about this site so I decided to check you guys out and I must say I am impressed. Awesome! Okay I digress. I am in a tough situation. I met this guy (we’ll call him Eric) at my friends 30th birthday party this past March. We exchanged numbers and hit it off instantly. We have been exclusive since the beginning of June and everything has been going great. I have a son who is…
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How School May be Killing Your Child’s Motivation to Succeed
Students are taking notes in math class to prepare for a test in two days. Katrina walks into class and nonchalantly places herself in her seat, takes out her pencil and notebook and begins to write. But she has something other than note taking in mind as you would soon find out. “Katrina grab your notebook and take down these notes; they will be vital for our test on Thursday”, says her teacher. Katrina has already repeated the 9th grade and although she is capable enough she has a laissez-faire attitude towards her work. “Hold on”, she replies. After about five minutes she continues to write and the teacher looks…
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6 Valuable Things Parents can Learn From Their Children
“I did my best”, “Mom/Dad why don’t you get me?”, “Well dad said I could”. If these phrases have been familiar to your ears then there must be a reason. I am all for parents who are strict within reason and raising their families with somewhat of an ‘old-school flavor’ so to speak. However there are some parents who just don’t understand what’s going on. So with that being said, here are 6 things parents should learn from their children (some of these apply especially for new parents). We make mistakes too Coming in past curfew, getting drunk at a party, getting a ticket on your car are all examples…
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Improve Your Co-Parenting Relationship with These Common Sense Tips
Several weeks ago Cortonio and I published, “Single Parents: Is it Better to Have Children outside of Marriage?” where for the first time, we collaborated giving our respective takes on the topic. There were some great comments left by several of our readers who decided to weigh in with their thoughts. One reader in particular ‘Aly’ left a comment that stuck out for me and is also the motivation behind today’s post. Here is an excerpt of what she had to say: “Instead of trying to convince people with a bunch of scary statistics that marriage is the best option for a happy, well-adjusted child, it’s time to shift the…
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Is it Important to Be Married Before Having Children?
Stephanie and Alonzo are co-workers and they’re both expecting children at the same time. Stephanie is married, meanwhile Alonzo isn’t. Over the course of a few months they would talk about the commonalities of her (Stephanie’s) and his girlfriend’s respective pregnancies. “Is your wife doing breathing classes”? “Did you guys pick out a name?” “I’m craving X,Y,and Z, what about her?” Not long after their children were born, Stephanie went to Alonzo and asked him about his wife and how she is doing. A co-worker overhead and chimed in with, “Alonzo’s not married, that’s only his girlfriend”. Stephanie suddenly got on her soapbox and called Alonzo out: “Wait… you’re not…
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Rants on Coming out the Closet, Kissing Babies and More
Quite a few news worthy items came up over the last few weeks and once again allow me to give my 2 cents worth, actually a nickel’s worth on what’s going on. If you are offended in any way please don’t be, we wouldn’t be called ‘Opinionated Male’ to begin with right?….Right. So let’s chop it up. I’m coming out. I want the world to know. So current NBA player Jason Collins has come out and revealed he’s a homosexual. So…And?! Now before I get hammered for saying this, let me explain. First off, this shouldn’t have been made a major deal simply because he’s gay. There have been many…
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Guys Night out, Baby Mama Drama, Drugging Kids & Sports
You ever catch yourself thinking of random things? Well it just so happens that it happened to me recently and I figured I’d share them with you – our fellow OM readers. Here goes. 3… 2.. 1. Balance your friends and spouse This is for the ladies and gents. I’m not saying you should have to even choose because both play an integral part to you in your life. I do feel though it should be a healthy balance. You should have at least one Friday or Saturday out of the month to hang with your friends. I don’t condone dissing your spouse for your friends or the other way around.…
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10 Things Every Mother Should Teach Their Daughters
In a previous post I wrote, “10 Things Every Father Should Teach Their Sons“, and I thank you all for the feedback. The other day a friend of mine asked, “Cortonio, why don’t you do one on mothers and daughters?” So to not discriminate (LoL) I will do one. There are so many young women today who wander life aimlessly getting themselves into situations that often tend to prove detrimental. Many of them didn’t have the proper guidance and teaching from their mothers because: (a) they [mothers] had them at a very young age and didn’t know how to fully instill morals and values in their daughters; (b) they probably…
