“I know you Jenny and most of all…. I know women” This was a quote from Bill Bellamy’s character in the movie “How to Be a Player”. If only we all could have that gift. In life we go through different experiences with women, some good some bad. Some women are predictable as Thursday coming after Wednesday, while others are as predictable as the weather. Have you ever seen some women in action and asked yourself, “Why”?
At times it may feel as if no matter how hard you try, you can never make any rationale of a woman’s moves. Here’s some things women say or do on a regular that drive men crazy. I will grade them in 3 categories:
- Head Scratcher.
“WHERE ARE ALL THE GOOD GUYS?” BUT CONTINUOUSLY DEALS WITH MEN WHO ARE THE OPPOSITE
Category: Head Scratcher
We all know that (most) women deep down inside the crevasses of their well-being desire that so called ‘bad boy’. It’s just nature I guess, especially to women who are younger and haven’t really experienced life yet. Personally, I don’t have an issue with a woman wanting an ‘edgier man’ as their companion. Hey, to each is own. On the flip side however, why would you rant, rave and moan about wanting a ‘good man’ and how they’re supposedly “all taken”?
It is unlikely you would truly appreciate what ‘good men’ have to offer in the first place since you opt for the guy who mistreats and/or disrespects you when he sees fit. Not to mention you’re likely constantly dealing with some sort of drama surrounding your poor relationship choices. I know, I know ,“but he’s fun, exciting, puts me in my place and got that good d*ck”. Whatever.
It’s all about being real. If you don’t really want the good guy then stop with the self-righteous behavior, because in the end it’s just fake.
SHE HAS (OR MAY HAVE) KIDS, BUT REFUSES TO DATE MEN WITH CHILDREN
As time has gone on single men with children have become common place, but for some women, dating these men is still seen as some sort of taboo. If you don’t have children, fine; but why then would you castigate a man who has children? Or what if you do have children – why have this attitude towards men that do also? You mean to tell me if a man has all the attributes you desire, but because there’s an offspring or two in the mix he gets NO shot? That’s the equivalent of you saying, “I have an apartment, and so does he but he still isn’t good enough”. You might not know his circumstances. What if he had them at a young age? What if he actually did it the ‘right way’- you know, got married first but things didn’t work? There could be a plethora of reasons.
Like the old saying goes, “Don’t throw stones if you live in a glass house”. You could very easily be that woman who had multiple children by multiple men which by the way leads me to….
HAS A CHILD BY ONE MAN, DOESN’T WORK OUT. RINSE, WASH, REPEAT SEVERAL MORE TIMES
Here I go again with the old idioms – “Fooled me once shame on you, fooled me twice shame on me”. Now before I get hate mail and molotov cocktails thrown at my humble dwellings, I totally understand how women can easily get caught up in the ‘baby mama’ pool. And I get that things just didn’t work, and in the end you’re not compatible with that man. Cool. I have a question though: Why would you have a child, break up/divorce, meet another man, have a child, break up/divorce, wash, rinse repeat?
In the instance you don’t get along with the father(s) of said child(ren), its possible the child(ren) will be deprived of an adequate relationship with their respective father; and we all know the importance of having a father, not a sperm donor, but a father in a child’s life.
Additionally, you’ve also increased your chances of requiring assistance from the system. At some point you have to stop and ask ,”Why am I doing this to them and myself”?
Sorry but that gets a WTF?! from me.
WEARS SUPER SHORT SKIRTS AND HAS TO KEEP PULLING IT DOWN
Never understood that at all. I’m sure 10,000% of you all have at least one mirror in the crib. Heck, I’m sure you have one in every room but the kitchen, so why come out the house without checking yourself? If your skirt is too short for comfort, change before leaving. Period.
WEARS PROVOCATIVE CLOTHING, THEN GETS ANNOYED WHEN MEN GIVE HER ATTENTION
Category: Huh? & Head Scratcher
Let’s see here: see-through leggings with a thong (or nothing) underneath; skirt with a huge slit up the middle or sides; shirt showing lots of cleavage; low waist pants that expose underwear when you bend over, etc. I believe by now you catch my drift.
Once again, you have mirrors. If you’re one of those women who is deliberate in your provocative wardrobe presentation, then you can’t possibly get offended by a man checking you out. If he catcalls you, different story; but be honest with yourself, you did ask for the attention. After all, why wear those types of risque outfits if it wasn’t attention you were seeking? I was out one day and a pretty, nicely shaped female with her friend walked by a group of men. She had on some booty cutter shorts with a tight shirt and some wedges. As they walked by, two of the guys yelled out, “dayum!” She sucked her teeth and said to her friend, “Damn, these thirsty a$$ ni**az!” I said to myself: “well you showed them cold water on a hot day, what’d you expect??”
CLAIMS INDEPENDENCE, BUT FLIPS THE SCRIPT WHEN THE CHECK COMES
I don’t really have to explain as the title says it itself. No issues here with independent progressive ladies ,but you can’t burn both ends of the candle. If you can make and spend your own money then don’t act like a man should take care of you financially all the way through. Nothing wrong with a man footing expenses and treating you well, but if you are independent and progressive then you should reciprocate sometimes.
IS OFFENDED BY DEROGATORY TERMS, YET GETS AMPED WHEN DEROGATORY SONGS ARE PLAYED
Category: A huge WTF?!
First, listen to this song. Now I am all for nostalgic hip hop and I still bump Snoop Dogg’s “Doggy Style” to this day but man, what I see these days from some women makes me cringe. These two songs were played at an event I attended and a group of women there sang them in unison while waving their hands as if they were actually performing on stage. ‘Nuff said.
Category: Huh? & Head Scratcher
I never understood this notion of a woman having relations with a man more than once but dissing him to her girls about his ‘meat missile’. If you were played by him and said it out of anger, well, we all say things out of anger. If you were simply clowning him about his size, did it dawn on you that you let him enter you on more than one occasion? You had to have seen the size of it before he put it in, so W\why clown the man later? Don’t get it. Ladies, maybe you can explain this logic.
WANTS MEN TO BE HONEST, THEN GETS UPSET WHEN SHE GETS THE TRUTH
Category: Head scratcher
This is a perfect example.
Okay maybe not that abrasive (but it be like that sometimes). Yes, the truth hurts, and I mean in any conversation or argument you may have with your spouse. Most women want men to be honest and forthcoming but can’t handle the truth at all. If you ask your man how a certain outfit looks, something tastes, what he thinks, so forth… if he’s the brutally honest type, you can’t get mad at him. If anything at least you have a man who has that quality (so long as he doesn’t pick and choose when to be honest).
“I’LL ONLY BE 5 – 10 MINUTES”
Category: For this one, yeah right!
You know damn well you’re not going to be 5-10 minutes. Why even say it?
So OM readers there’s my take on confusing things women do. Fellas, what are some other side eye worthy things women do/say? Ladies, chime in as well. Are you guilty of some of these things? If so, help me understand the rationale.
Title update on 01/15/19. Post Originally entitled, “Things Women Do That Get A Major ‘Side Eye’ From Men”