As men sometimes we get into situations with our women because of several reasons. Maybe we misunderstood what they said. Maybe we don’t understand women as much as we think we should. Sometimes we under appreciate things. I mean sometimes we just plain fcuk up.
But sometimes at the end of the day maybe some women just don’t know how to act. Well I’m going to give you a little tidbit on the “woman code” per se’ and ladies if you find yourself doing these things, maybe you should look into the mirror and blame yourself. So here goes and let’s see if you have been guilty of these transgressions.
10. Nothing wrong with balance in a relationship but be the WOMAN. If you expect men to be the provider, protector and play ‘Bob DaBuilder’ then you should most definitely meet him half way. Make sure the house is kept, food is on the table, and things are in order
This is about as plain as day. I mean think about it, most women have certain standards or expectations of a man, right? Well what about men’s expectations? If you want us to fix things- and I don’t mean screwing in a light bulb- but build a cabinet, install a dishwasher, put together that room you always wanted, or even things like shoveling the snow, you should at least make sure the house is clean.
If there is a noise downstairs, and I could be wrong, but most women aren’t going down there alone (and some wouldn’t even follow). If you do assume or expect the man to go down (which he should) then you should hold down your end of the deal.
Now in no way am I being chauvinistic or demeaning towards women, because there are women out there doing the damn thing on their own. With that being said however, you don’t want your man to feel like he has to do virtually everything, i.e bring home the dough and as long as you’re giving him the cutty it’s all good. I got three words “No It Aint”! I know this is a fictitious character, but some women like to be on that Peg Bundy status and that doesn’t cut it.
9. If your hair isn’t long enough, don’t force a pony tail…not a good look
Yes ladies, it’s true it’s true. I recently did an article “Top 8 Signs Your Hair Needs To Be Done” and if your hair is short, leave it the way it is. Don’t pull back every strand of hair you have just to get that elusive pony tail. You’re sitting there having veins protrude out your head just because of it. You know men love au’ naturale’. If it’s short let it grow on its own. You don’t want to have a Lebron James hairline do you?
8. Having street smarts is always a plus, but be a lady not a hood rat
I also covered this in a previous article. Again it’s all about balance. It goes without saying that’s the only way you’ll get around in society and life in general. Know when to be what when you need to be. And I’m not even going into “lady in the streets freak in the sheets” nonsense. That’s so passe’ and clichéd. I’m serious, you don’t need to walk around and constantly act like you have no home training.
7. By the age of 30 you should have your own place, a job, and a driver’s license
Before I go any further, I understand unforeseen things happen, and sometimes life just doesn’t work out the way it’s supposed to. However, once your age starts with the number “3” you’re not just grown, you’re a grown a$$ woman. You are not 22 anymore. Get it together and get your life in order. I mean simple things like a driver’s license should be in your possession. No, not a state ID but an actual license. Not to mention the fact it comes in handy.
You should have a career or at the least have a fortifying job in which you’re making enough to pay bills, put some away, and still have pocket change for yourself. Having your own place depends on a lot of circumstances. However, it would be nice to be able to do things like entertain friends at your place without worrying about making your folks uncomfortable (too much noise etc,) or being embarrassed in any way.
6. Nothing wrong with being a social drinker but being a lush is a no bueno
5. Be confident with yours, don’t study what another woman has
As a woman you must always be confident and secure with your possessions: your man and yourself as a whole. Be happy and comfortable with your life and not the next woman’s. We don’t need to be keeping up with the Jones’s, Kardashians, no one.
You don’t know another woman’s situation as to why she may have what she does. Appreciate your things and your life and you’ll be a better person because of it. Let’s not worry about her house, her outfits, her bank accounts, nothing.
4. Clothing that is too big or small (especially big girls) isn’t cute. Wear your right size please and thank you
Size 16 trying to squeeze into a size 10. Shoes that are too big you can see space in the back of them (like high heel pumps). I don’t think I should go into anymore.
3. As men we all like nice round bottoms, but exposed butt cracks aren’t sexy
For some reason or another women of today like or should I say love, wearing low waist jeans which I guess is okay depending on the shape of the woman. However, I don’t like seeing butt cracks on a women. I don’t know why, it’s just not a good look to me. And I’m sure I can speak for a lot of men when I say that, especially if you are a little hairy.
2. Dancing or grinding on another woman at the club isn’t attractive or cool, I don’t care if it’s your BFF
We’re adults having grown folks fun, not 18 year olds on spring break in Cancun or somewhere. If you’re at a club/lounge you’ve had a long week and you just want to let loose and unwind and you’re dancing with your home girls, cool. You don’t feel like being harassed by thirsty guys who just want a cheap or quick feel, or maybe a quick boner who knows.
You’ve indulged in a few “soda pops” and you’re feeling good. Tunes are blaring and you’re in a zone, I totally get it. When you start grinding on one of the females in your group, that’s not even remotely attractive. Sorry it just isn’t.
1. Your man’s homies are just that …HIS
You don’t need to be up in your man’s company’s face. If you happen to come around and you greet him/them and exchange a few pleasantries, nothing wrong with that. But let the boys be boys. You don’t need to be hanging with them like they’re your friends.
If it’s during a time when they’re watching the game or the fight, let them be. I’m sure you wouldn’t want your guy to be all around your ladies right? Besides you’ll possibly set yourself up for something to go wrong or something wrong to be said, and you don’t want to leave him in an awkward predicament.