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“I’m Single but too shy to Talk to Guys. Help!” | Ask The Men
Dear Ask The Men, “I am a 45 year old, soon to be divorced woman, and mother of three. My daughters are currently attending college and my son is eleven years old. I was in a marital relationship for 21 years. Prior to that I had very little experience with men. In fact, my soon to be ex was my first boyfriend. I would describe myself as a late bloomer and I am proud to say I’m sexier today than I was 20 years ago. Any hoo, I’m no where near ready to date, but I must admit I do think about my future and if it would ever include having…
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"My Girlfriend Dumped me! How do I win her Back?" | Ask The Men
On this weeks featured episode of Ask The Men, Jamal asks: “Hi there. So to start off my story I had a relationship with this girl for a month but [prior to that] we were talking for about 3 months. We are both coworkers and it’s been a rocky relationship from the get go because of her anger and my [in]ability to grow up and be a man. She broke up with me a few weeks ago because we didn’t click, the conversation never flowed, and only liked me because I was a nice guy. I tried to get her to reconsider, but to no success and it almost cost…
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5 Things You Need to Unlearn About Men
Many moons ago, I wrote a piece titled the 7 Myths About Women That Men Really Hate and I’ve always meant to do one on men but never got around to it. Well I’ve gotten around to it and put together a short list of long-standing stereotypes about men that have had their run. Let’s put these myths to bed. Speaking of beds… [Black] men are well endowed I don’t spend a lot of time in men’s locker rooms nor have I been accused of being a wiener-screener or pecker-checker. Having said that, I think black men get a bad rap for having a full…er,…umm…package. Now hold on, I know what you’re…
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6 Ways Women can Avoid Needless Drama in Their Lives
After having written Dear Men, Here’s 6 Simple Ways to Avoid Foolishly Ruining Your Lives, I would be remiss if I didn’t do the same for the softer sex. Let’s get right to it. Have Children too Young ‘Young’ can be open to interpretation and be quite a broad adjective. Allow me to be more specific in terms of what ‘young’ is meant here. And I won’t define it as ‘not being ready’ because you could be 32 years old making a very desirable salary, be totally financially independent and still not ready to have a child. If this were to occur you under these circumstances as described above, at least you would…
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6 Ways Men can Avoid Needlessly Ruining Their Lives
I’m going to rewind to the age of 7. I was young, impressionable, had a ravenous appetite for reading, and I was in carefree mode (as all young kids are). I was watching a show called Zoobilee Zoo – go on Youtube to check it out (if you’re over 30 you should know the show). Anyhow, one of the characters made a mistake that cost him a friendship (for the duration of the show). The obligatory sing-a-long came at the end about making mistakes. The chorus was: “It’s a fact of life that you have to face, People maaaaakeeee mistakes” . There’s nothing wrong with making a mistake. Plain and simple we all tend…
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Do Most Men Really Want the ‘Perfect’ Woman?
She cooks, cleans and makes a decent to good living. She’s funny and fun to be around, pleases you physically and is easy on the eyes. Sounds good huh? Would you still want her after 6 months? 2 years? Longer? Is she marriage material or ‘bust down’ material? Is she someone that’ll do for the moment or for the long haul? This ladies and gents begs the question: Is there a perfect woman out there, and what makes her perfect? I’ve heard a range of commentary from men stating they “want a carbon copy of their mother” to “as long as she’s cool and gives me some pu$$y”. In reality…
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Is there Room for Traditional Values in Today’s Culture?
“Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free”. “Boys shack up, men provide a home”. We’ve all heard the old clichés and idioms involving the norms of society when it comes to people and relationships. Have you ever stopped and wondered to yourself if the old-fashioned norms and ways are still in full effect? Are they just ‘old’ and shouldn’t be followed anymore? Does or should it even apply to me anyway? Well, lets examine some of the ways of yesteryear and see how relevant (or not) they are today. Let’s chop it up…. Living together before marriage vs Marriage first This has always been debated among people…
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Love Or Money – Which is More Important in Your Relationship?
Guy #1: “Yo I’m telling you relationships and marriage, especially marriages are investments”. Guy #2: “Dawg what are you talking about? You’re jaded man, marriage is and should be based on love…not money”. Guy #1: “No think about it, a marriage is like a business because…” This was a conversation I was involved in but didn’t have much to add as I was rather drawn into the viewpoints of it. I sat there taking it all in listening intently as these brothers used metaphors on marriages and the aspect of money. It went on for a while with lots of good banter back and forth. I had to think and…
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The Subtle Ways a Man Shows he Adores You
“Her” – What is she? Who is she? My partner in crime Mr. SoBo wrote a masterful piece on “Her – The One Your Parents Never Told you About” and how she can be that man’s kryptonite. I’m sure plenty ladies sit and wonder to themselves: Was I ever Her? Will I ever be Her? Why haven’t I truly been someone’s Her? Some women know what it’s like and some don’t. Whether or not it’s deservedly so isn’t really for me to say. Now, not every man will do all these things mentioned below nor will it mean you are any less special to him if he doesn’t do these things. It truly depends…
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The One – What Your Parents Never Told you About Her | Poem
They say I am strong and unyielding with an emotional fortitude thats shielding, yet Her spirit weakens me. Armed with clarity and a firm grasp of reality, I navigate this unpredictable sea I call life, yet I constantly find myself lost in Her eyes. With every glance into the softly beckoning and disarmingly feminine dreamy windows of Her soul, she ensnares my spirit and catapults me into a dreamlike state of my own. Visions – of a future filled with memories, heartfelt “I Do’s” celebrated in ceremonies serenaded with songs of the innocence we long shed, but now welcome back into our lives as a testament of our love – consume me as I drift further into Her gaze.…
