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6 Ways Women can Avoid Needless Drama in Their Lives
After having written Dear Men, Here’s 6 Simple Ways to Avoid Foolishly Ruining Your Lives, I would be remiss if I didn’t do the same for the softer sex. Let’s get right to it. Have Children too Young ‘Young’ can be open to interpretation and be quite a broad adjective. Allow me to be more specific in terms of what ‘young’ is meant here. And I won’t define it as ‘not being ready’ because you could be 32 years old making a very desirable salary, be totally financially independent and still not ready to have a child. If this were to occur you under these circumstances as described above, at least you would…
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Letters to Empower Young Black men: Keep ya Heads Up
Dear young brother, How was school today? I noticed I saw you on the block about 12:30 or so. Wait a minute, doesn’t school get out at 2:00? So what are you doing out so early? Come to think of it I saw you out around the same time twice last week. You were on the corner wearing your black North face jacket, patent leather red and black (Bread 11) Jordans, and Levi’s jeans sagged a little below your waist waiting patiently for the next customer to come by and get served. What happened to you? Where is your dad? I thought you two reconciled and repaired your broken relationship. Why do…
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Improve Your Co-Parenting Relationship with These Common Sense Tips
Several weeks ago Cortonio and I published, “Single Parents: Is it Better to Have Children outside of Marriage?” where for the first time, we collaborated giving our respective takes on the topic. There were some great comments left by several of our readers who decided to weigh in with their thoughts. One reader in particular ‘Aly’ left a comment that stuck out for me and is also the motivation behind today’s post. Here is an excerpt of what she had to say: “Instead of trying to convince people with a bunch of scary statistics that marriage is the best option for a happy, well-adjusted child, it’s time to shift the…
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Want a Better Life? Follow These 10 Rules and Thank me Later
We as people experience and learn many things as we go through our childhood, enter our adolescent years, and journey into adulthood. Some things are more important than others as we take things and allow others to go in one ear and out the other. There are things that we keep with us and we use for the rest of our lives – mantras I call them. So ladies and gents, let’s chop it up as I share some of the lessons I’ve learned and would like to share. 1. BE AN OWNER, NOT A LOANER Plain and simple everyone wants to have their own and cherish what they have…
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Guys Night out, Baby Mama Drama, Drugging Kids & Sports
You ever catch yourself thinking of random things? Well it just so happens that it happened to me recently and I figured I’d share them with you – our fellow OM readers. Here goes. 3… 2.. 1. Balance your friends and spouse This is for the ladies and gents. I’m not saying you should have to even choose because both play an integral part to you in your life. I do feel though it should be a healthy balance. You should have at least one Friday or Saturday out of the month to hang with your friends. I don’t condone dissing your spouse for your friends or the other way around.…
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10 Things Every Mother Should Teach Their Daughters
In a previous post I wrote, “10 Things Every Father Should Teach Their Sons“, and I thank you all for the feedback. The other day a friend of mine asked, “Cortonio, why don’t you do one on mothers and daughters?” So to not discriminate (LoL) I will do one. There are so many young women today who wander life aimlessly getting themselves into situations that often tend to prove detrimental. Many of them didn’t have the proper guidance and teaching from their mothers because: (a) they [mothers] had them at a very young age and didn’t know how to fully instill morals and values in their daughters; (b) they probably…
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10 Things Every Father Should Teach Their Sons
Any man can be a father but not every man can be a dad. This is a rather true statement. There are some men out there who have left their responsibilities because maybe, just maybe they didn’t know HOW to be a dad and show their son the way. Well I’m not a guru on lots of things, but I hope this list of things can be an “instruction manual” so to speak. An 099 class (for all of you college goers). This list isn’t in any particular order. 1. Let’s talk about sex baby I was recently watching “Boyz In The Hood” and there was a scene where Furious…
