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“I’m Single but too shy to Talk to Guys. Help!” | Ask The Men
Dear Ask The Men, “I am a 45 year old, soon to be divorced woman, and mother of three. My daughters are currently attending college and my son is eleven years old. I was in a marital relationship for 21 years. Prior to that I had very little experience with men. In fact, my soon to be ex was my first boyfriend. I would describe myself as a late bloomer and I am proud to say I’m sexier today than I was 20 years ago. Any hoo, I’m no where near ready to date, but I must admit I do think about my future and if it would ever include having…
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When Marriage Proposals go Wrong: If she says “No”, is all Hope Lost?
Allow me to set the scene: Music is playing. Several people are even shaking their tail feathers. Drinks are flowing, food is in abundance, and everyone is mingling with each other. The men are in the next room getting their card game on. Mike – while partaking in the events of the party – is feeling nervous. He has been dating Shana for two years and he wants to pop the question. Midway through the party he seizes the opportunity and asks the DJ to stop the music. He requests everyone’s attention and then brings Shana to the middle of the spacious room. Mike, once on edge, now becomes relaxed. He holds…
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Do Most Men Really Want the ‘Perfect’ Woman?
She cooks, cleans and makes a decent to good living. She’s funny and fun to be around, pleases you physically and is easy on the eyes. Sounds good huh? Would you still want her after 6 months? 2 years? Longer? Is she marriage material or ‘bust down’ material? Is she someone that’ll do for the moment or for the long haul? This ladies and gents begs the question: Is there a perfect woman out there, and what makes her perfect? I’ve heard a range of commentary from men stating they “want a carbon copy of their mother” to “as long as she’s cool and gives me some pu$$y”. In reality…
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Is there Room for Traditional Values in Today’s Culture?
“Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free”. “Boys shack up, men provide a home”. We’ve all heard the old clichés and idioms involving the norms of society when it comes to people and relationships. Have you ever stopped and wondered to yourself if the old-fashioned norms and ways are still in full effect? Are they just ‘old’ and shouldn’t be followed anymore? Does or should it even apply to me anyway? Well, lets examine some of the ways of yesteryear and see how relevant (or not) they are today. Let’s chop it up…. Living together before marriage vs Marriage first This has always been debated among people…
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Love Or Money – Which is More Important in Your Relationship?
Guy #1: “Yo I’m telling you relationships and marriage, especially marriages are investments”. Guy #2: “Dawg what are you talking about? You’re jaded man, marriage is and should be based on love…not money”. Guy #1: “No think about it, a marriage is like a business because…” This was a conversation I was involved in but didn’t have much to add as I was rather drawn into the viewpoints of it. I sat there taking it all in listening intently as these brothers used metaphors on marriages and the aspect of money. It went on for a while with lots of good banter back and forth. I had to think and…
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How Long Should you Wait for Him to Propose? | Ask The Men
Dear OpinionatedMale.com, “Hi. My name is Monica. I must say your blog is very interesting. I have a question. I’m 24 and in college, and from time to time I think about marriage. My grandmother always says to me, “A man should know within 6 months if he wants to marry you. If he doesn’t ask you by the first year, leave him because he is waiting for something better to come along“. I agree with her, but I feel it could be more of a challenge because the world is so different [now] compared to the past. I was thinking a year and a half..maybe two. From an adult males perspective,…
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Why do Men Hide Their Passwords and Porn? | IYNTKJA (Pt 4)
Here is my 4th installment of questions women ask men; and yes since I did parts 1-3, I’ve been approached with more questions that women would like to have addressed. Obviously I will answer these from our perspective and I’ll be shooting straight from the hip and pulling no punches. So here goes this editions list of questions: 1. How often do yall look at porn when we aren’t home? Well, it depends on the person, the stash, and if we know you’ll be gone for a while. To be honest a lot of us don’t watch porn…uhh that much anyway. If anything, barring we have no children together we’ll use…
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Is it Important to Be Married Before Having Children?
Stephanie and Alonzo are co-workers and they’re both expecting children at the same time. Stephanie is married, meanwhile Alonzo isn’t. Over the course of a few months they would talk about the commonalities of her (Stephanie’s) and his girlfriend’s respective pregnancies. “Is your wife doing breathing classes”? “Did you guys pick out a name?” “I’m craving X,Y,and Z, what about her?” Not long after their children were born, Stephanie went to Alonzo and asked him about his wife and how she is doing. A co-worker overhead and chimed in with, “Alonzo’s not married, that’s only his girlfriend”. Stephanie suddenly got on her soapbox and called Alonzo out: “Wait… you’re not…
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“Your Wife’s a Snack” – Harmless Compliment or Glaring Disrespect?
“Hey Ted, who has the ugliest spouse…“, asks a Houston radio show host. The response was, “You know what,…I’ve got it”, Johnson said on CBS Houston when a caller asked him to identify the player with the least attractive wife. “And this is a big, big man. This guy had his way with the Texans this year. He won’t hear this…..Vince Wilfork”. Ted Johnson was a former line backer who played 10 years with the Patriots winning three titles in 2001, ’03, ’04 and appearing in another Superbowl in 1997. Well some way some how, to no surprise it got back to Wilfork who tweeted, “You’re barking up the wrong tree. I see and…
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Shacking Up: What it Really Means When a Man Considers Moving in With You
People like to hold up the relatively few differences in how men and women perceive the world as unassailable proof that the gulf between the sexes is so wide that men and women may as well be from different planets and accordingly fashioned in the image of opposing gods. The truth is we have way more in common than not. The common strand of humanity that binds us is much stronger than our differences. Now that I’ve gotten that out of the way… holy fcuk, sometime women are so off base with how they assume men see the world I question if we evolved from the same ancestors. I’ve talked…
