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What do you Appreciate Most About the Person You’re With?
Taken from a brotha and a sista who found love for the first time in a long time. Imagine having had stumbled across one bad relationship after another. Having dealt with nothing but drama, infidelity, and just pure heartache especially after loving hard and giving your all to a person. Now you’ve finally come across ‘The One’ and you’ve found that elusive smile. Enjoy this poetic expression. ‘Why Do I Love Thee?’ Why do I love her? She makes me smile every day and keeps my stomach fed She satisfies all my needs when it’s time for bed She’s easy on the eyes and her voice soothes me If I were to step…
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5 Relationship Crushing Arguments Every Couple Should Avoid
There’s nothing more commonplace in a relationship than disagreements (Unless you two share a brain. And that’s not healthy…..to ME anyway. I can’t speak for or on anyone else). There are some disagreements that end when both parties simply agree to disagree. There are simple debates, and then there are outright arguments. Truth be told, they can sometimes become very debilitating and detrimental to relationships. Allow me to preface this by stating there’s nothing wrong with arguments sometimes. They can be healthy as it’s showing that you both are indeed human – not perfect – and just are opposite in some ways. In addition, it demonstrates that you are willing to fight…
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11 Things Every Mature Man Should Have in his Home
So here you are. You’ve finally moved out of your folks home and got yourself a new pad. No more rules, curfews, answering to anyone (maybe the land lord). You don’t have to share anything, worry about where your things are or who has borrowed them. Nothing. While we are all somewhat dependent on the hackneyed idea of a house-warming, there should be things that you already should own or look into purchasing. So why not start with… 1. IRON This gadget has saved me many a time before going out. While sticking your pants under your mattress to flatten it out won’t do, you may also not have time to put…
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21 Men Confess Their Sexual Deal Breakers & Turn Offs
Cortonio (yes I’m referring to myself in the 3rd person) figured he’d go a different direction this time with this post. But seriously, I recently read an article about women and their sexual deal breakers, so I figured why not do a post on men and feature their responses. Honestly, I was pretty curious as to the types of answers I would get, so I came up with a plan. Basically, I polled a number of men from varying age groups over the course of a week. Some I knew personally, others were random attendees from a social event I attended and a few others were literally just passers by. It…
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6 Big Secrets Guys Won’t Share With Their Girlfriends
Secret adjective 1. done, made, or conducted without the knowledge of others: secret negotiations. 2. kept from the knowledge of any but the initiated or privileged: a secret password. Men and women all have secrets right? There are just some things out there they just wouldn’t want to share with their beaus. It can be a pre-relationship indiscretion they perpetuated or it could be something potentially damaging to their present relationship especially if it’s newfound. And it could even be something downright embarrassing they are reluctant to share with you. Some men keep things stashed away in their ‘Mandora’s box’ and will either let it out to a precious few or take it to the grave.…
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Is there Room for Traditional Values in Today’s Culture?
“Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free”. “Boys shack up, men provide a home”. We’ve all heard the old clichés and idioms involving the norms of society when it comes to people and relationships. Have you ever stopped and wondered to yourself if the old-fashioned norms and ways are still in full effect? Are they just ‘old’ and shouldn’t be followed anymore? Does or should it even apply to me anyway? Well, lets examine some of the ways of yesteryear and see how relevant (or not) they are today. Let’s chop it up…. Living together before marriage vs Marriage first This has always been debated among people…
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Love Or Money – Which is More Important in Your Relationship?
Guy #1: “Yo I’m telling you relationships and marriage, especially marriages are investments”. Guy #2: “Dawg what are you talking about? You’re jaded man, marriage is and should be based on love…not money”. Guy #1: “No think about it, a marriage is like a business because…” This was a conversation I was involved in but didn’t have much to add as I was rather drawn into the viewpoints of it. I sat there taking it all in listening intently as these brothers used metaphors on marriages and the aspect of money. It went on for a while with lots of good banter back and forth. I had to think and…
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Bedroom Games That will Make You Better in Bed
Mattresses creaking. Headboards hitting the wall. Moaning. Heavy breathing. We all know what that is. Sex which was a hush hush taboo subject 50+ years ago has seemingly exploded into mainstream media: music, magazines, tv, internet, you name it it’s there. From serious relationships, one night stands, friends with benefits to whatever, its everywhere. Now while men and women know the in’s and out’s of having sex, do we really get to know and understand the subtle nuances of what makes a good to great physical relationship? How many brothers really pay attention to a woman’s erogenous zones? How many women know while it doesn’t take much, it does take work to turn…
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When the Fight Inside You is Bigger Than Your Fear | Poetry
You can punch me and you can kick me You can fool me and you can trick me But I still stand You can yell at me, you can curse at me You can throw all including the worst at me But I still stand You can chain me and you can whip me You can make me ‘runner-up-to-your-championship’ me But I still stand You can take away my aspirations and all my hopes You can have me feeling like I’m strung out on dope But I still stand You can take away all my jewels, my money and my cars You can leave me bruised, scratched, and full of…
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Do Her Social Media Friends Come with ‘Benefits’? | IYNTKJA Pt. 5
Welcome to another installment of “If You Need To Know Just Ask“. Well I was in-boxed with some more questions and I’ll be delighted to answer them. This time I’m joined by my writing brother from another mother, Mr. SoBo. So what are we waiting for? You got questions, we got answers. Let’s go! My boyfriend bought a mother’s day gift for his ‘baby mama’. I approached him about this and we got into an argument. Was I wrong? CORTONIO: Well, that’s a rather interesting situation to be in. I’ll say this, if their child was old enough to pick out a gift or sign the card and he simply PAID…
